Relationships: A lesson for you !!!

If I could pick one lesson, one main lesson, it’s this quote by Maya Angelou:

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

People do show you exactly who they are, but we keep hoping, thinking, believing.

Instead of seeing reality for what it is, we keep harping on someone’s awesome potential, the potential where they are awesome all the time.

Nevermind that in reality, they called you an asshole.

Nevermind that in reality, they never want to soothe you when you are in pain.

Nevermind that in reality, they’ve slapped you across the face.

Believe ALL the negatives a person shows you in the first 3 months. Ignore all the positives.

In time, the negatives will get worse. And the positives aren’t positives if they come with the negatives.

Stop hoping for them to get their shit together. They are never going to get their shit together.

There is only pain, shame and disappointment for you if you keep hanging onto the potential of a person, not their reality.

If I had truly lived by this statement, I wouldn’t have stayed in a fruitless relationship with my angry ex. I was never physically abused, but emotionally.. well, that’s another story.

But then again, it was the relationship that pushed me to become a breakup coach, so in the end, I’m still grateful for everything that happened.

I now live by this statement, and don’t hestitate to cut out poison from my life. Life’s too short to spend it with negative people who have shown you exactly who they are and what they are capable of.

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