What are the harsh life lessons everyone should learn in their 20s?...are you in your 20s?, well you need to read this!!!

so I came across this somewhere and I bet you it changed my thoughts…give it a try!!!

1.) Don't follow your passion, it's trap. Job satisfaction comes from sticking with one thing until you're good at it, whatever it is. Then achieving autonomy, competence, and enjoying the company of your coworkers. Chasing your passion is one of the most brainwashing statements our generation has ever been told. Achieving super high competence in even the worst jobs worldwide will give you a deep sense of control over your life and self value. Even being an emergency plumbing explosion technician is an awesome job for somebody out there.

2.) Relationships that you know won't evolve into something real like marriage are probably a waste of time. Learn to be happy by yourself and not rely on your partner for validation or happiness. You can't make somebody else happy if you don't know how to be happy yourself. Too many people cling to relationships in their 20s then end up breaking up anyways because of a work relocation. Our 20s are still pretty volatile, plan for that. It's normal to date and stuff just don't act like its the end of the world if you're single. One day you're going to be married to the same person for the last 30 years and will reminisce about being alone.

3.). The real working world sucks and is difficult, but that doesn't give you a license to take the easy way out. Everybody's parents went through it along with their parents. School is an incubator that makes everyone think the real world is easy and linear. The real working world is difficult and you will fail many times but that doesn't mean it'll last forever. Usually through persistence you'll slowly start chipping down the wall and be able to break through.

The jobs that are super linear are often insanely competitive and crowded on the way up. The jobs that are dreamy but hard to get often involve extraordinary talent and dedication. Know yourself and decide what you're good at and choose accordingly. Accept the fact there is no easy way out of this. You must work through the hard chapters to arrive on the other side. There is no other choice. Everybody is way too optimistic about this and often get hit with a serious dose of reality when they face real unemployment.

Even parents hooking it all up for you is still not making it because you lose your autonomy to them. Making your own way in this world will always be fully dependent on you.

4.). A lot of women in their 20s still really don't know what they want, but they think they do. Some legitimately believe marrying a rich guy they don't love will fulfill them. Others believe they can change men. Date somebody who's realistic and well-adjusted and never pander to a girl who doesn't have an accurate perspective on what love is actually supposed to be. Not all women are like this obviously but society has brainwashed quite a few women (and men too) to adhere to false gender stereotypes. Be fully aware of this and protect your heart. If you give it away too many times it will become broken and you won't be able to love properly anymore.

5.) If you want to be rich or famous, be willing to fight tooth and nail for it before the age of 30, don't wait. Be willing to starve and live way worse than most of your peers if necessary. After 30 people lose motivation and their priorities change. I have a lot of friends who say they want to change it all up after 30 but I have yet to see that. You need to push really hard if you want to eat something that's not served on the regular menu of life.

Sacrifice everything for the dream life you want now, because when you're older you literally can't. It's totally worth giving up a decade of your life so you can live 50 years of pure awesomeness. Do the math.

If you are above 30 I am not discouraging you. There is no real race in life, every person’s actual life path is different and there are no statistics to define that.

6.) Your friends and family do not always know what is best for you. They know your past and where you've come from but that isn't what is going to define the rest of your life. As an adult you need to make decisions for yourself, your job, where you'll live, and who you'll marry. You don't have to disrespect their wishes but you also need to think for yourself.

They also don't want you to hurt yourself, become depressed from failure, suffer, be poor, or have heartache. This is why many parents try to protect their children and tell them to take safe jobs and live a safe life. They want you to marry the safe girl who's a kindergarten teacher and would make a perfect mom. Life is not about safety. Life is about doing what you actually want to do.

Family is not always important. Ask anybody who's ever had an abusive parent. It's only as important as you deem it, make that choice for yourself.

7.). If you haven't already figured out how to eat healthy and exercise you need to start by learning to have some self respect. Would you feed your twin sibling unhealthy food and tell them to never exercise?

8.) Meaningless sex is fun but also overrated. Some people use this as a tremendous source of validation but once you become cognizant of that's why you're doing it, you may want to find other more constructive ways to find your validation. Sex is healthy and normal just don't become an addict.

9.) Doing drugs and drinking is insanely awesome but there's more to life than being high all the time. Being high all the time disables you from achieving other equally fulfilling states of sober enlightenment, which also feel wonderful. Learn more than one way to get high. Sobriety makes you face yourself, understand yourself, spiritually grow and revolve. People act like sobriety is a bad thing.

10.). There are lot of mean selfish people out there who are not self aware of how destructive they are to others. It is not always their fault. They often were programmed that way and can't help but hurt people unconsciously. Steer clear of these people. They will slowly destroy you if you let them. They can't help it. Part of them might be nice sometimes but if they can't control their demons they are broken.

11.). You can either choose a happy, conventional and stress free life. Or you can choose a very interesting, stressful, challenging, but often times more meaningful life.

12.). Accept the fact you cannot predict the future and humans are notoriously bad in general at predicting their own futures. Generally speaking, your future will have some good things and some bad things happen to you. Hopefully a balance of both but that's what makes life worth living. Without suffering we do not appreciate health and normal everyday life. Without death we do not appreciate our youth. Life will always contain some form of agonizing pain and moments of sheer bliss. Accept them for what they are, good chocolates or real shitty ones.

13.). Suicide is always an option, recognize you at least have a little bit of control over your destiny. Life and death is a choice every single day. Be aware fully conscious of your decision to choose life each day. Your family will most likely be extremely upset but know that if you really really hate this and never ever see it getting better, you can kill yourself. Also know that even those serving time in prison eventually get out and return to normal life. Our life passes through moments of good and bad.

My point here is you have to choose your life. Each day you have the choice of whether to live your life or take your life. We need to be more mindful of our choice to choose life everyday. Choose to go to work, see your family, spend your time watching Game of Thrones. We mustn’t sleepwalk through life. I’m not encouraging anybody to kill themselves on here, just be fully aware of their daily choices.

14.). Money is important, but only up to 70k a year. Really look at those statistics and plan your life accordingly. Ask yourself what you would do if you had 20 million dollars and never had to work. Being broke is absolutely awful and poverty is something no human in this day and age should ever have to experience. But a life of working a job you hate is also a form of slavery. Free yourself.

15.). Ask yourself if you would regret this when you're 80 when making any decision. That will always give you some perspective. Even if it makes you a more reckless person, perhaps that's who you're actually supposed to be.

16.). Don't relax, don't enjoy the ride. Embrace the pain and suffering because that's part of what life is. Life is not about being sedated and relaxed all the time. That's for people in retirement homes. Embrace the pain and remember what life feels like